A message from me

I was stuck with the whole practicum report thing for one week. And i guess I stretched my disease immunity to the limit by depriving myself off sleep for two consecutive nights for the sake of the report. As a result, whether i want it or not, it is a fact that i have been going down with this bad flu for more than two days now. But of course my emotional being was fine until....

Anyway, there is one very important message i would like to spread around. It is about love again! Well, i admit that love seems to have been the focal point of my attention lately, but that doesn't necessarily mean that i am a love-centred kind of person. It is just that quite recently I have witnessed too many heart-broken souls, most of whom are my good friends. Anyway, to cut a long story short, the message today is:

Never ever get into a relationship with someone just simply because by so doing you think you can get over your ex.

Such an act is not only selfish but also very destructive. I see with my own eyes how a person's life is shattered in the aftermath of the break-up of such a relationship.

Comments

Anonymous said…
I agree with ya. It's really destructive if the act of getting into 'a relationship with someone' is done 'just simply because by so doing you think you can get over your ex.'

Can I ask you a question? Is this post inspired by Ice's entry 'Indefinable Feeling'?
April 29, 2008 at 10:51 AM
Barbie said…
I think so, P.M :) Is that true Ven?

I don't know what people think, but isn't that too selfish dragging the poor innocent party in? It hurts so much to be taken advantage of :( What if you were that one? How would you feel? Head over heels, right? If this kind of heartless ppl does exist, I wish someone else would break their heart the same way, so that they know wat it feels like.

This is not quite different frm marrying someone while you are in love with someone else! Though you don't get hurt today, it doesn't mean that you won't tomorrow.
April 29, 2008 at 11:42 AM
Sopheary said…
To Babie:
You know what? Reading your comment is painful.
April 29, 2008 at 8:41 PM
Barbie said…
Oh really, PM? I'm sorry! Just know that I didn't mean it. I am becoming an over dramatic ice princess. I hope I can get better comment which is not too emotional as this one, deal? *Hug*
April 30, 2008 at 7:33 AM
Unknown said…
To All: To be honest, I feel very, very sad this time!!! since first reading the post. I was thinking what msg would he convey haha.. Little did I expect he could come up with the msg of what we were discussing lately! Well, admittedly i'm quite emotional when comes to this kinda topic, guess what? I can't pull myself strong tho sometimes i seem to be strong. I do agree with you all! I still stick to my old perspective which is hurting the third party is such a bad act. I could sense that Barbie feels the same way! :) it's just like we get to love someone just to forget our ex one. I'd never do that until I find myself loving that person from the bottom of my heart. :)

btw, ven, heh heh do take care for urself porng lah! i'm also suffering from this terminal disease of mine - flu! been catching cold for more than one week already! :( hope u get better very soon, dude!!!
April 30, 2008 at 9:11 AM
Anonymous said…
take care junior!!! hope you recover soon:)
April 30, 2008 at 10:33 AM
MarshMarllow6338 said…
To PM: well...sort of!!! But to a great extent, it was inspired by my friend's story...So yeah...i dun wanna see more and more people hurt cos of this:-)

To BarBEE: Yeah...they are selfish, you may say! But then if you look from amore positive point of view, you will be able to see that that one is so broken up inside her his or her ex that she wishes more than anything to find someone better. Can't blame that person entirely, though!!!:-)

To Hour: I know you are wearing mask every day, dude!! Thta's understandable cos you dun wanna m,ake ppl around you sad. I do too!!! Anyway, i agree with you about the notion that we should never get into the relationship again if the bad effects from the breakup do not wear off yet...

To Bro Rex: thanks, bro!! I am doing a lot better now. Thanks again:-)
May 2, 2008 at 3:53 AM
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