A Deep Ocean of Secrets


I was watching “Titanic” the other day when the old Rose said, “A woman’s heart is a deep ocean of secrets.” This is not just one of the random sayings, I feel. There is every truth in it! More often than not, however enduring a relationship is, misunderstanding opens a crack, narrow at first, but wider as the time goes by. And guess what the root of misunderstanding is? Obviously, SECRETS! It is a bare truth that faith is highly prized with utmost priority in any relationships. Faith starts to wear off when either one of the parties has so many things to hide, so many secrets, that it paves the way for skepticism to set in. You will be amazed at how destructive skepticism can be to your relationship. Thus start confiding in your partner as much as you can, especially girls! Make sure only a small room is left for secrets! For your information, ladies, guys really hate seeing their partners having a top secret conversation right before their eyes because it makes them feel “small” and unimportant!

Have faith!

Comments

Anonymous said…
it's not that we, girls, don't share...it's just that not all guys are good listeners!! :)
well, i guess guys don't share much either!
Barbie said…
YES, u're right, Pheaktra. Girls do luv to talk about wat really get under her skin or wats exactly on her mind, but the thing is when she attempts to share her everyday thoughts and feelings to the guys, some of them just try to be Mr. Fix it, or I can say some of them don't literally show any interests which is wat we called he's not the good listener. :( Just my personal thought lah, Ven Ven.
Anonymous said…
both parties must do the same thing. It will be worst if this kind of thing happens when the two parties lose trust in each other.
Anonymous said…
I agree with bro Rex!

To bro Rex: Speaking of own experience, huh???
Unknown said…
i don't really agree that... i think some girls don't share... i don't refer to all... heh heh,,... it's hard to please girls sometimes.. girls are complicated, hard-to-understand too...
Rithy said…
To Ven:
i so far have noticed something significant by reading your blog and Pagn's. it seems like from Pagn's blog, she was trying to describe how bad guys are. you know like guys are selfish and all that.and from here it seems like you are trying to respond to what she has been complaining about guys by saying that the girls are the top secrets keepers. they never told their secrets. all in all, it seems like both of you really have negative opinion towards different sex. Hey Ven, anything you like about girls,dude???
To Pheaktra: well...some of us are really good listeners. Me, for example! hehe...
To BarBEE: well, not all of them are like that!! Some of them are really undertsanding and sweet like me lolz....
To Bro REX: Right! No trust, no relationship!! So both parties really need to polish up on their listening skills...
To vattey: i think Bro Rex is more mature than us, you see! Experienced a lot too...hehhe
To Hour: you are right, hour! I agree witth ya, dude!! Some are very good at keeping secrets...
To THY: hey, man, i am not trying to say anything in response to Pagna. I am also not having any negative views towards women in general. I think you are thinking too much, or maybe trying to link things together even if they are not meant to be linked. hehehe...Ok, anything i like about girls??? Cool!!! You'll be amazed at my answer cos there are many things about girls that are so likeable...heheh
Anonymous said…
i never say you are not a good listener!! :)

If you read carefully, i didn't say 'not all guys' that means there are some guys who are good listeners!!! I never generalize!
To Pheaktra: hehehe...sorry, my bad! I know you never generalize!:-)
Anonymous said…
Sometimes, when girls don't share, it doesn't mean that we don't want to share or we intend to hide those secrets. It's because we can't find a right time to share, so, in this case, I'd suggest you guys approach girls and try to find out the underlying reason of hiding the top secret instead of keeping your increasing skepticism which will lead to destruction of your relationship.
Unknown said…
Oops, if she wants to share, no matter any prob she encountered, she would honestly spit it out.. i think so... but i don't expect that from all girls. well, i don't understand girls, sometimes :(
Anonymous said…
Not only girls. Guys are hard to understand, too.
Anonymous said…
girls and boys are wired differently so of course we are different. We compliment each other that's why girl and boy are in nature's call to be together.

To icebreaker: It's not always easy for girls to spit out everything she wants to say! I'm sure that goes for the guys too.

To PM: i agree with you. i have known a few guys who are really good at getting girls to talk to them about what bothers her!

To guys out there!
When she walks away from you, angry
[ Follow her ]
When she stares at your mouth
[ Kiss her ]
When she pushes you or hits you
[ Grab her and don’t let go ]
When she starts cussing at you
[ Kiss her and tell her you love her ]
When she’s quiet
[ Ask her what’s wrong ]
When she ignores you
[ Give her your attention ]
When she pulls away
[ Pull her back ]
When you see her at her worst
[ Tell her she’s beautiful ]
When you see her start crying
[Just hold her and don’t say a word ]
When you see her walking
[ Sneak up and hug her waist from behind ]
When she’s scared
[ Protect her ]
When she lays her head on your shoulder
[ Tilt her head up and kiss her ]
When she steals your favorite hat
[ Let her keep it and sleep with it for a night]
When she teases you
[ Tease her back and make her laugh ]
When she doesn’t answer for a long time
[ reassure her that everything is okay ]
When she looks at you with doubt
[ Back yourself up ]
When she says that she likes you
[ she really does more than you could understand ]
When she grabs at your hands
[ Hold hers and play with her fingers ]
When she bumps into you
[ bump into her back and make her laugh ]
When she tells you a secret
[ keep it safe and untold ]
When she looks at you in your eyes
[ dont look away until she does ]
When she misses you
[ she’s hurting inside ]
When you break her heart
[ the pain never really goes away ]
When she says its over
[ she still wants you to be hers ]
When she repost this bulletin
[ she wants you to read it ]
- Stay on the phone with her even if shes not saying anything.
- When she’s mad, hug her tight and don’t let go
- When she says she’s ok, dont believe it, talk with her
- because 10 yrs later she’ll remember you
- Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her
- Call her before you sleep and after you wake up
- Treat her like she’s all that matters to you.
- Tease her and let her tease you back.
- Stay up all night with her when she’s sick.
- Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think it’s stupid.
- Give her the world.
- Let her wear your clothes.
- When she’s bored and sad, hang out with her.
- Let her know she’s important.
- Kiss her in the pouring rain.
- When she runs up at you crying, the first thing you say is;
“Whose ass am I kicking babe?”
To PM: Ok ok..Girls dun share because they can't find the right time to!! And right we guys dun share too sometimes cos we feel what we are going to say is the last thing girls ever want to hear from us.
To Hour: some girls dun like to share. That's definitely true! And of course it goes without saying that trying to understand them is anything but easy. anyway, sounds like you are having a trouble trying to undertstand some girl?
To Pheaktra: i agree with you about the fact that men and women are supposed to complement for each other. But then i personally feel that women have a higher tendency of keeping things to themselves, and it can be really exhausting for the guys to always go the extra mile to undertstand the girls.
Sopheary said…
Come on! Relationship without obstacles is not strong, so whenever the obstacles pop up, both girls and guys should not succumb to the destructive 'Give-Up'. There are times that both sides need to stand the painful feelings no matter how hard it is to keep the relationship which you might never find again if you walk out of it.
Anonymous said…
To Pheaktra:
Thanks for agreeing with me. I do agree with your ideas, too.
I know about how obstacles can keep the relationship stronger. And i am perfectly aware of the fact that both parties should never give up however arduous it is going to be and no matter what it takes to get through the difficult time. But does any of these have anything to do with this topic of this entry??:-)
Anonymous said…
Haha...guess what? That's what I asked myself, too, after I wrote the comment.
To PM: You must have been daydreaming when you were about to write that comment,PM!:-)

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