Marriage?
I had an interesting conversation with Thy, Mo and Nory the other day. And i think it is worth sharing!
What does it mean when you say you are married to someone? I think marriage is more than just the tying of knots between the bride and the groom. It, in fact, involves the merge between--say--two most incompatible families whose subcultures do not share any common grounds.
Adapting yourself to an environment that is so alien to you in almost every way is no child's play, especially for husbands who have to seek shelter under the roof of their parents-in-law. First of all the husbands have to be able to strip off their old "suit" reflective of their homegrown ways of living, and slip into a new one that comes with new expectations and rules and regulations. At this point the parents-in-law could not be any more watchful. With every move they make, the husbands are assessed against the criteria already established in line with what are perceived to be right or wrong by the parents-in-law. While trying to please their wife's parents, the husbands are losing their manly individuality. Silent resentment and frustration are built up until they reach an alarming point. It is just a matter of time before the husbands raise the white flag, and unleash their boiling rage. There is no denying that improper handling of the situation at this point could jeopardize the marriage.
Therefore it could be concluded that love between two people could be quite fragile when family differences come in between them. It is of the best interest to get as close to the family of your future wife as possible, for you will be astounded at how a simple utterance by your parents-in-law could stand in your way to find blissful marriage.
What does it mean when you say you are married to someone? I think marriage is more than just the tying of knots between the bride and the groom. It, in fact, involves the merge between--say--two most incompatible families whose subcultures do not share any common grounds.
Adapting yourself to an environment that is so alien to you in almost every way is no child's play, especially for husbands who have to seek shelter under the roof of their parents-in-law. First of all the husbands have to be able to strip off their old "suit" reflective of their homegrown ways of living, and slip into a new one that comes with new expectations and rules and regulations. At this point the parents-in-law could not be any more watchful. With every move they make, the husbands are assessed against the criteria already established in line with what are perceived to be right or wrong by the parents-in-law. While trying to please their wife's parents, the husbands are losing their manly individuality. Silent resentment and frustration are built up until they reach an alarming point. It is just a matter of time before the husbands raise the white flag, and unleash their boiling rage. There is no denying that improper handling of the situation at this point could jeopardize the marriage.
Therefore it could be concluded that love between two people could be quite fragile when family differences come in between them. It is of the best interest to get as close to the family of your future wife as possible, for you will be astounded at how a simple utterance by your parents-in-law could stand in your way to find blissful marriage.
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To gaara: Good if we stay in our own home! But that means spending more cash:-D